Sometimes It’s Better To Say No

We all enjoy lending a hand when asked yet often times it’s not always a good time to stop what we’re doing however we decide to do it anyway. You know you can make the difference and would rather help out because saying no could disappoint or make someone upset with you. There are times when we would just say yes so people would like us or say thank you! This gives us positive feed back which sometimes we all desire. At some point saying yes becomes a conflict with our values or beliefs.

When asked to perform a task or help someone out becomes a conflict it’s ok to say no. We should say no when the task is a dreaded job, or if your not being treated with respect, especially when your not all in. Same is true for your spouse or partner, if you are being mistreated saying yes is not going to change the situation or meet you in the middle if a decision is to be made.

If you don’t put your life first than no one will, that does not mean you should ignore people or never help someone in need, we should always be willing to be in service of others. Sometimes people have good intentions but fail to consider your point of view. We have one life to live, as long as it is our life and not the life of someone else. You must decide if your needs are being met also. Remember when we were kids and our parents would say – if your with your friends and they decide to jump off a bridge are you going to jump with them?

It is your life don’t get caught up in following the crowd. Make your own decisions. Become a leader create your own path in life, sometimes you will need to bend the rules, don’t worry we all need to do that at some point in life. Just making someone else happy won’t always make you happy, instead say no!

A few years ago a friend of mine would always put other people before himself, a great person and an amazing friend he was always there to help you out, one day we were having a bite to eat discussing our busy schedules, going back and forth on the topis of serving other people, we both have a passion for making a difference and helping someone in need, however the difference between us I put my health as first priority as without good health we’re not able to much.

At the time we disagreed how important a healthy diet as well as exercise is, I guess his thought process was he was too busy and would figure it out later, a few months later we connected again over coffee, same topics same discussions regarding health, however this time he lead the charge, after our last meeting his doctor gave him a warning regarding his health and his life style. A clear sign change was needed, he told me health was his first priority and serving others was next on the list, seemed strange listening to him speak that way.

No question we agreed about health, he said Steve I was so busy helping other people I neglected my health and put myself at risk for a heart attack or stroke!

Truth is we all need to say no sometimes, it does not have to be a selfish thing but when we forget our own needs which can be a priority and sometimes can save our own life. No is the right answer. Never stop helping and serving the greater good as long as it is your decision and you don’t put well being at risk.

~Stay Strong~