by stevengconnelly@aol.com | Mar 11, 2016 | Names
How important is it for someone to remember your name ? You begin the conversation and you introduce yourself clearly, yet only a short while later that person does not remember your name ! Can you relate to this ?? When someone says your name it leaves you with a sense of importance. Sometimes it’s a challenge remembering a persons name especially if it is hard to pronounce. For most of us we’re so busy thinking about what we want to say next that we don’t quite get their full name which can place you in a disadvantage. However if you remember that name and properly pronounce it, you have just sent a very effective compliment to the person! Do you think you’ll have a better chance gaining their respect ? Franklin D Roosevelt was a master at recalling names, he could remember a persons name clearly with one time hearing their name. How is that possible ? Did he have some sort of secret ? Perhaps, When asked he said, “I pictured the persons name as if it was written on their forehead.” Mr Roosevelt knew the best way to gain the goodwill of others was to remember their name. In remembering names the first thing we must do is listen to what is being said, instead of thinking what you are going to say next, your internal dialogue occupies the same auditory nerve in your ear as external sound. Here are three ways to remember names: Concentrate and listen to what they say, repeat the name to yourself a few times. Imaging the name as if it...
by stevengconnelly@aol.com | Mar 5, 2016 | Uncategorized
One of if not the biggest challenge in our personal or business life is getting our point of view across to another person, we know what we want but no matter what we say they just don’t seem to listen? sometimes we end up in an argument !! Even if you convince that person you are right and they are wrong, their personal pride would make it difficult for them to back down in future subjects which they may not agree with. When I was a foreman on a construction site a few years ago I had the responsibility of overseeing the success of each project I was on, the job was a challenge, getting the guys to see my point of view on the overall project seemed to be a daily struggle. Sometimes I would get angry at them for not getting the work completed on time or argue with them, that they should just do as I say… One day I was asked to go to another site for a day and oversee another project. I was worried the guys would not do the work I had set up for them to do that day we were on a very tight schedule so there was no margin for mistakes, so I made a decision to put my best man Mike in charge, I told him There was another project I needed to work at tomorrow and I was putting him in charge for the day, I explained to Mike the company was growing and they were looking for people like him to be the foreman on up...
by stevengconnelly@aol.com | Feb 26, 2016 | Uncategorized
Have you ever tried to get someone to do something you wanted to do but no matter what you say or do the just seem to not listen ? Yet when someone you know tells you to do the same thing you just do it ? Why is that ?? At age 38 Charles Schwab was appointed the first president of the newly formed United States Steel Company in 1921, his salary was over a million dollars a year, that’s more than three thousand dollars a day ! Why ? Was he an expert in steel manufacturing? Did he have more knowledge than other people ? Charles Schwab had a special gift…he had an ability to deal with people… When asked how he was able to deal with people he said: “I consider my ability to arouse enthusiasm among my people the greatest asset I possess, and the best that in a person is by appreciation and encouragement. There is nothing else that so kills the ambitions of a person as criticisms from superiors. I never criticize anyone. I believe in giving a person incentive to work. So I am anxious to praise but loath to find fault. If I like anything, I am hearty in my appreciation and lavish in my praise.” You might be in business or perhaps in you personal life, Getting people motivated to do what you want them to do can be a challenge, Instead of getting frustrated take a step back. Would getting angry get them excited ? or telling them to just do as I say ? Would that get you motivated...
by stevengconnelly@aol.com | Feb 20, 2016 | Uncategorized
This past week I met happy people everywhere I went… The grocery store The gas station Getting a coffee at Dunkin Donuts The hardware store The parking lot In the elevator At a meeting Walking around down town Buying a newspaper At lunch with a client Then it dawned I was getting what I was looking for…Over the years I have learned, what we focus on determines our daily habits. Yet for most people the focus for the day is, get up, get dressed, fight traffic to get to work, hurry all day to get the work done, fight traffic going home, eat dinner, looking back on the day grateful it’s over ! sound familiar ? Instead of being grateful another day of your life is over why not start each day being grateful for another day !! First Write 3 things you’re grateful for each day onto an index card, I now have literally hundreds of them, today I wrote: 1) Grateful for my life When I read this over and over again I never thought about how grateful I am to be here, After all these years I’ve been taking my life for granted…Although I can’t reverse sand upward in the hour-glass of life, from now on I will live this day as if it is my last. 2) Grateful for Sunrise This reminds me that every day is a new day, never will I be satisfied with yesterdays accomplishments, today the sunrise only happens once and with that all my efforts are focused on my tasks of today. 3) Grateful for yesterdays challenges As if I’m a...
by stevengconnelly@aol.com | Feb 14, 2016 | Uncategorized
I’ve been in the construction industry for over 30 years so I have a good understanding of the importance of tools and when to use a proper tool for the job at hand. Let’s take a look at how fear, anger,hurt feelings, unworthiness and guilt can be tools ! “When we change the way we look at things the things we look at change” Can it be that simple ?? What do most people think about when confronted with their fears ? It’s been said you must”face your fears” however for most of us that’s a bit of a stretch, the uncertainty of what might happen if we face that which makes us uncomfortable keeps us from facing the issue. We must step outside of our comfort zone to be able to face any fear, which sounds simple yet for most people this comfort zone is where they spend the most time. In order to break away from what holds us back we need the proper “tool” for the job…“BUT” How can we utilize fear, anger, hurt feelings, unworthiness and guilt as tools ? Fear: Energy, Concentration, Focus… Anger: Keeps us on Track… Unworthiness: Keeps us on Track… Guilt: Validates good, know what to do.. Hurt Feelings: Remind us how much we care… Each day this week be the observer…Think…For most people there are one or two out of the five words that we should focus on, for me it was anger don’t get me wrong I’m not at all an angry person in fact over the past year I’ve become much more at ease with the little things...
by stevengconnelly@aol.com | Feb 13, 2016 | Uncategorized
What is the difference between successful people and unsuccessful people ? Are they born that way ? Did they get a better education ? Some say they are just lucky… Truth is most people that are successful didn’t start out that way, There is story after story of people all over the world that have overcome adverse conditions and become very wealthy. Born on January,29,1954 in Koscinsko Mississippi from an unmarried couple, she spent her first few years of her life on her grandmothers farm in rural Mississippi , when she turned 6 years old her grandmother fell ill and was forced to live with her mother in a Milwaukee boarding house where she was surrounded with extreme poverty, she endured years of sexual abuse and was raped at the age of 9 by her 19 year old cousin. At the age of 14 she went to live with her dad in Nashville Tennessee. This was when her life began a new course, A stable environment allowed her to thrive academically as well as socially at East Nashville High School, where she would discover her passion for media…Best known as…Opra Winfery. There are many commonalities among successful people however there are three key elements that are evident. Direction: Without direction you won’t know where you’re going…Each day is planned they have a sense of what tasks need to be completed and the order of importance, think of it this way, We all use a GPS at times to give us directions to get to a location, We know where we want to go however we don’t know which route...
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