Language And Love

Words can build or burn a bridge, daily language which is used can be as important within a relationship as your health. Sometimes when an emotion is an accelerated level the words chosen may not help a stressful situation. This can breakdown a marriage and pull partners apart. In any relationship it takes both sides to make it work. How we communicate with each other establishes the strength of a any relationship.

I met my wife in 1978 in high school we dated for a number of years and got married, we have been together since and have not been separated. There have been good time and other of struggle nonetheless we worked out the issues and live a good life in the country. Many of our friends have gotten divorced over the years some in the last few months. When we asked a close friend what happened they stated…Sometimes you grow apart over time...He has fallen out of love for me. Looking back it makes sense when I remember the language they chose when they spoke.

Most times throughout the day there were never words of compliment or appreciation nor a question to what the other person wanted or needed help with at times one would be busy doing a chore at the same time when the other needed help taking in the groceries. A lack communication existed which fueled more negative affirmations throughout their day.

Looking back on my own life whenever we had a disagreement often time I didn’t take her opinion into account or failed to let her know what I was doing which raised a level of stress. I have discovered over the years daily positive affirmations deepen the strength of a relationship language like:

“You look beautiful in that dress”

“I don’t know what I would do without you”

“We always have a good time when we’re together”

“You are always looking after me”

“I love you”

If the language is as stated above is utilized each day you’ll find a return words of appreciation toward you. It builds a bond of respect within a relationship. Today the world is changing seemingly by the day spinning out of control most folks work more hours then their parents with a much higher debt level which can add to the challenges we all face today. We can’t change outside forces but we can change the language we choose with each other.

Within the language of love there are many different dialects which reaffirm words utilized with one’s spouse. The deepest human need we all seek is to feel appreciated.

Time

The time spent with each other should be quality time, that’s not sitting in front of the TV with your attention be directed to a movie or the next commercial, cell phones and social media have become a major distraction in today’s world, quality time can only be that when all major electronic devices are shot off and put away. Time together is just that you and your partner without outside forces distracting you from communicating with each other. Go for a walk talk to each other, we all have the same amount of hours each day, make each second precious with him/her.

Gifts 

When you give you receive, it is a visible affirmation of one’s appreciation for another person. We all love to receive gifts. Within a relationship a gift shows you were thinking of your spouse or partner even when you were not together, a symbol of thought not the size that matters only the love which expressed with the gift.

There are many ways to utilize the language of love and deepen a relationship

The journey of a thousand miles begins with the first step

Each day there after is one after another

~Stay Strong~