by stevengconnelly@aol.com | Aug 31, 2018 | Relationships
True happiness is is living a fulfilled life, yet many miss out on relationships which are taken for granted. This can lead to separation causing unimaginable pain. We all desire to be happy and live with the person we chose to spend the rest of out lives with. All to often though relationships end for no apparent reason, although some people do grow apart as they age, it should be noted we can also grow closer as the years go on. Today it seems like there are more and more folks splitting up, could be the loss of a job, an affair, money issues, nevertheless every where you look these days people are struggling to stay together. Some would say the economy is impacting peoples ability to cope with changing times, others would state it costs more to live which puts stress on families. All valid points, however if we get back to the basics of our relationships we’d have a better chance of success. I can remember a time when people stayed together, worked it out, and moved on. No doubt the world has changed, yet it’s the same. If you and I are going to live a fulfilled life we must understand what elements of healthy relationships to focus on each day. Why not stack the odds in our favor instead of the other way around? Key elements of a healthy relationship begin with love, we’ve all been in love, however the first person we must love is ourselves, in order for us to give love we must begin with how we see as well as the...
by stevengconnelly@aol.com | Dec 23, 2017 | Relationships
Words can build or burn a bridge, daily language which is used can be as important within a relationship as your health. Sometimes when an emotion is an accelerated level the words chosen may not help a stressful situation. This can breakdown a marriage and pull partners apart. In any relationship it takes both sides to make it work. How we communicate with each other establishes the strength of a any relationship. I met my wife in 1978 in high school we dated for a number of years and got married, we have been together since and have not been separated. There have been good time and other of struggle nonetheless we worked out the issues and live a good life in the country. Many of our friends have gotten divorced over the years some in the last few months. When we asked a close friend what happened they stated…Sometimes you grow apart over time...He has fallen out of love for me. Looking back it makes sense when I remember the language they chose when they spoke. Most times throughout the day there were never words of compliment or appreciation nor a question to what the other person wanted or needed help with at times one would be busy doing a chore at the same time when the other needed help taking in the groceries. A lack communication existed which fueled more negative affirmations throughout their day. Looking back on my own life whenever we had a disagreement often time I didn’t take her opinion into account or failed to let her know what I was doing which raised...
by stevengconnelly@aol.com | Sep 29, 2017 | Relationships
In today’s technological world communication has changed, some would state for the better some would say for the worse, there’s always two sides of any argument. You can tweet, post or text just about any person with a smart phone. Challenge becomes when the person on the other end of the message reads whats typed in the wrong way. From there back and forth goes the conversation…Sound familiar? Same is true when it comes to the relationship with our partner. A message is sent, reviewed and a comment is returned, all in seconds, It’s no wonder so many couples today are growing apart. The digital era we’re in allows us many conveniences to get the message out, however one important word which is missing…Love…You can type, text, post, tweet, email and many other ways to send the message. Yet how do we send what is in our hearts. When you tell your partner you love them and look them in the eye, the message is clear. Physical touch can never be replaced, no form of communication will ever replace that which you do when you say, I Love you and wrap your arms around your loved one. Think about it, does Skype time replace real time? is the feeling the same? Can you notice the vibration of love throughout your body? How does a message feel when they aren’t there in person? Sometimes there is no other way to communicate with the person you love, could be in another part of the world or working late, away for business or just not able to get together. Needless to say...
by stevengconnelly@aol.com | Aug 18, 2017 | Relationships
Seems like relationships today have shifted a bit over the past decade or so. When I was a boy my mom and dad would spend time each day, usually at the dinner table, just talking to each other, with respect and love. No matter what the subject was the person listening always had a kind word of encouragement. Although there are many relationships which still communicate, yet there are as many that don’t communicate the way they did when first met. Think how a relationship starts, you meet that person who lights up your heart, everyday is a new surprise! We tell our friends how amazing they are and the exciting time spent together. Our partner is always on our mind, we do everything we can to make them feel special and loved…But…Over time…Could be a few months or a few years something changes we start to forget how that person made us feel. Not to mention how we tend to treat them as time drifts on. The law of familiarity takes effect. We’ve entered into a new phase in our relationships. One of decline. The spark which ignited the flame as since gone out. I met my wife in high school, we enjoyed spending time together doing the things we both enjoyed, as years went by we got married and had a family. After nearly 40 years we are still together and going strong. However as we look back on our friends from school the story is quite different. Most of our friends are divorced and re-married. Sometimes as we grow old we grow apart which causes friction...
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