by stevengconnelly@aol.com | Jul 1, 2016 | Mindset
It doesn’t matter who you are life has a very unique way of adding challenges to our lives, yet most of us miss the seed of possibilities within every challenge. However for most of us challenges tend to look like problems, not possibilities. Truth is even the toughest problems can transform your life and take you to the next level. The question we have to ask ourselves is how do we overcome and get back to being the creator of our lives and stop just surviving. Albert Einstein says it best: “Crisis is the greatest blessing for people and nations, because crisis brings on progress… It’s in crisis that inventive discoveries and great strategies rise. He who overcomes a crisis overcomes himself without being ‘Overcome.’” Five simple steps to thrive not just survive Step out of your comfort zone: We all like surprises, however we only like ones that make us feel comfortable. Don’t be afraid to stretch yourself a little bit every day. If you and I are going to make progress we must first decide to step out there and take action. Focus on what you can control: Often we focus on things that we can’t control which results in more of what we don’t want to appear into our lives. What we focus on has a massive effect on how we feel. Be careful where you direct your thoughts. Make a decision and hold yourself accountable: You must first decide and follow through with what you said promised yourself you would do. No one can do it for you. Do it now… See it as it...
by stevengconnelly@aol.com | Jun 11, 2016 | Mindset
Have you ever looked back on your life and said…I never seem to have the time to do what I need to do, there is always something I need to do! If only I had more money, I could take the time to do the things I want to do in life. If your like most people you wake up to a alarm clock screaming in your ear, get dressed, have a bite to eat, and drive to work. All the while thinking about what you need to accomplish that day at work, sound familiar? As the day comes to a close you are looking forward to going home and relaxing…But do we really relax??? For most of us it’s hurry home eat dinner then hurry to…Cut the grass…Clean the house…Fix that leaky faucet…Go grocery shopping…Help the kids with their homework…Do the laundry…Etc…Etc… We miss an important part of life which is, spending time with our thoughts. Our own internal voice. There is a place we go from time to time when our mind is not so “busy” thinking about all the things that need to get done, it is a calmness that overtakes us, a place where we go in our mind, nothing else in life matters…It can be just before you go to bed or perhaps when you first wake up, that break in time when there are no thoughts racing around in your mind. What if you could make that connection every day, you would have less stress, more energy, better focus, how would that make you feel? Truth is there is no “magic formula” to...
by stevengconnelly@aol.com | Jun 3, 2016 | Mindset
Seems like everyone you talk to these days is busy, earning a living, trying to balance between work, family and friends. There is never enough time in the day to do the things you want to do. The common theme today is: “I have no time” “I can’t seem to find the time” “I ran out of time” “I don’t have time for that right now” Has the world changed? Is your life different today than when you were a child? What is causing this change in society? The one constant in life is change, although we don’t like it change is actually good for us all! It helps us grow and stretch ourselves out of our comfort zone. However for some people this can be stressful. So what can we do to change our outlook and appreciate life in our very busy schedule? How can we eliminate stress? There are many books on this subject, but for most of us we are looking for something quick! sound familiar? Over the years I have read many books on how to meditate and how to relax the mind, all great books. However it requires a time commitment and discipline to implement each day. I discovered a way…would take only 10 minutes a day…I had amazing results…You can too if you do the following: 1) Gratitude, before you start your day think about all the things you are grateful for in your life, your health, family, friends, your job, ability to have shelter and food each day, etc… 2) Prayer, there are people in your life that may need a prayer,...
by stevengconnelly@aol.com | May 27, 2016 | Mindset
In today’s world it doesn’t matter if you own a business or you work for a company, on of the biggest challenges you are faced with is how to motivate your team. Whatever industry I have been involved with I always been obsessed with being the best no matter what I had to do, I would start early in the morning and work late into the night… But not everyone operates like that, I learned that the hard way. Having too high of an expectation for people on your team can cause you to get frustrated. Some people will get discouraged and quit! You never know what make other people happy, accept them for who they are. If you are involved in Network Marketing , there could be people on your team that have never recruited a single person but are very happy to be part of the team. They enjoy going to the events and meet other people from around the world, or perhaps they just enjoy the products. Have you ever tried to motivate someone and they actually did less work? One of my mentors taught me to never motivate but to inspire, when you motivate that comes from an external force. When you inspire you create a inward-out. Which means you inspire people by doing the action you wish they would do. People notice when you do something more than when you just say something… When I was in the construction industry I was very consistent every day, my co-workers always respected the amount of work I would produce, which inspired the people around me to...
by stevengconnelly@aol.com | May 20, 2016 | Mindset, Uncategorized
Have you ever been in a conversation with someone and they made you feel like your the only person in the room? It didn’t seem what you were taking about they were interested in every word you said. How did that make you feel? Like you were important, or they understood what you meant! To be a good listener you first must be a part of the conversation. Most people like to talk about themselves, however we tend to want to come right back and say something about what’s on our mind instead…Think of a conversation as energy, if the other person is speaking encourage them to keep talking, ask questions, let them feel comfortable and they will speak more openly and honestly. Begin by making eye contact, this demonstrates to your partner you are fully engaged and interested in the conversation. It has been said, follow the 80-20 rule. 80% making direct eye contact with your partner and 20% your eyes are roaming as you think about what to say. Stay in the room, No I don’t mean physically leave the room, just focus on what your partner is saying. It can be a challenge as our minds sometimes wander,which is especially hard if you are talking to someone who speaks very slow. This will help you to know when to respond which can help build rapport. Always give verbal feedback. There is nothing worse than when you are talking to someone and the just look at you and don’t say a word! How does that make you feel? A nod, smile or some other way to acknowledge...
by stevengconnelly@aol.com | May 13, 2016 | Mindset
Life can be a blessing or a challenge. Do you ever find yourself just getting up everyday and feel like you’re on a treadmill and nothing seems to change? No matter what you do every day ends up with the same results! Over time this “treadmill” can lead to a depressive condition. The good news is there are two conditions which cannot operate at the same time, when you’re frustrated and when you’re making progress. The key to happiness is progress. Have you ever noticed some people are always happy? On the other hand ever notice some people are always unhappy? If a situation comes up which is out of their control happy people find a way to look for the good while unhappy people look for the bad! Why is that? It is directly related to their physiology. If a person spends each day with a negative physiology, that’s what will be reinforced in their life every day! We all have had challenges through out our lives, sometimes “life hits us” when we least expect it. The problem is if we focus too much on the past or look too far into the future does not change a thing, it only leads to more frustration. Just wishing things were different has never worked for anyone. We all have the power to change that by focusing on the present moment, which is where our attention must be. When you find yourself feeling like your on a treadmill…Change your physical state sit up straight in your chair, put on some music that you like, go for a walk or...
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