by stevengconnelly@aol.com | Nov 17, 2018 | Mindset
We’ve all heard that old saying “The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.” But some would argue what is the first step? is it for wealth? fame? relationships? or happiness? truth is a forward step in any direction is progress, however one must ask them self if I achieve this goal will I be happier? will more of what you want really make you happy? Our society has programmed us to believe we will be happy once we get…Yet we still look for that one shinny object to bring us happiness. It has been debated by some great minds over the years, the true meaning of that which makes us happy. Each of us has a different definition of what makes us happy. We’ve all been there though once that new car we worked so hard for is finally parked in our driveway, the newness wears off quick! Over the years I’ve come in contact with many different people who have interesting ideas as to what the true happiness is for them, however after becoming an observer it’s not that hard to figure out what it is. Back in high school I can remember a friend of mine who’s parents were well off, never went without a thing, his first car was only a couple of years old while the one I was driving came from two cars made into one! Don’t get me wrong I was grateful to even have a car at the time, yet my buddy was always looking for a better and faster car! And when he found one his dad...
by stevengconnelly@aol.com | Jun 16, 2018 | Mindset
You don’t have to look that far these days to see someone who is stressed out, society is moving toward fast pace, hyper speed, need it done yesterday world. This new mentality is exposing the average person to situation we’ve never experienced before. For the most part we tend to go along with the flow and accept these conditions as part of everyday life. However along the way we need to analyze how we are dealing with this new element and how our health is impacted. Over this past weekend I needed a few things for the house so I went to the store, my wife and I live a fair distance to stores so we must plan our time carefully. Needless to say when I arrived at the store it was very busy, people were in a hurry getting what they needed that day and didn’t waste a minute in between. You could feel the stress around you as people were navigating the isles to get what they need. I bumped into a friend of mine who told me how busy his week was. Interestingly enough the story he told was what the mind set of most people that day in the store. Working long hours with little sleep, a supervisor with heavy demands, a schedule which seemed unreachable, not to mention doing the work of three people…Sound familiar? Stress can be weaved in the fabric of our lives, if left unchecked it can impact our live in a way we which can make us ill. My friend was experiencing that issue. He stated how tired he was...
by stevengconnelly@aol.com | Jun 1, 2018 | Mindset
We all enjoy lending a hand when asked yet often times it’s not always a good time to stop what we’re doing however we decide to do it anyway. You know you can make the difference and would rather help out because saying no could disappoint or make someone upset with you. There are times when we would just say yes so people would like us or say thank you! This gives us positive feed back which sometimes we all desire. At some point saying yes becomes a conflict with our values or beliefs. When asked to perform a task or help someone out becomes a conflict it’s ok to say no. We should say no when the task is a dreaded job, or if your not being treated with respect, especially when your not all in. Same is true for your spouse or partner, if you are being mistreated saying yes is not going to change the situation or meet you in the middle if a decision is to be made. If you don’t put your life first than no one will, that does not mean you should ignore people or never help someone in need, we should always be willing to be in service of others. Sometimes people have good intentions but fail to consider your point of view. We have one life to live, as long as it is our life and not the life of someone else. You must decide if your needs are being met also. Remember when we were kids and our parents would say – if your with your friends and they...
by stevengconnelly@aol.com | May 11, 2018 | Mindset
How valuable is your time? if money were linked to every second of the day how would you spend it? Each time we make a decision we are in changing an outcome which should be in our favor right? Often times some decisions tend to be not the right ones yet we look for the change we desire. Clarity in decision making can enable a better outcome in the future as well as save precious time which in today’s world is priceless. Reaching the right decision in a short amount of time can also save unnecessary work in your personal life and in the business world, if indecision, over analyzing, re-thinking,consume each decision energy to take action is wasted. Sometimes the method which we use to make decisions each day might need to be changed. If we were to go set out for a destination we’ve never been to before but we had no direction or path to follow how would we know where we were going? Instead if we follow a specific path we are much more likely to end up where we want to go. To create a path for clarity we must begin to write down important decisions, often times we keep it all in our head thinks it will work our, however after a few hours only to end up right where we started! Writing down what needs to be done allows for a clear view on issues which need to be addressed, it can also provide you with an alternative solution, you can look back to the first option and have a better way...
by stevengconnelly@aol.com | Apr 7, 2018 | Mindset
Are you satisfied with life? Does your current position make you happy? If the answer is no you might consider a few changes towards a better life. How to make progress in life can be as simple as looking at your current place from a different perspective, if your motive is not your own any change will not matter. Most people would state more money will make them happy, although having enough money is important to living a comfortable life, it in it’s self is not enough. Finding your true purpose in life is what will bring you the most happiness. The challenge is finding what our purpose is? Where do we begin? Truth is there is no right answer, we just need to get started, along the way we’ll discover what that is…Motive does matter, when following our passion it’s much easier to make progress unlike when working toward something we care little about, progress becomes a chore and unfulfilling making any progress a challenge. First you must determine what is most important in your life, don’t rush into it, take time, find a quiet place where you can be alone with your thoughts, shut off all distractions like the phone, computer, t v, radio, think what if you had enough money and didn’t have to work what would you do? External forces will be eliminated when you develop the ability to listen to what it is you do want. Be happy with where you are in life, sometimes we can feel bad about our past decisions which can drain us of our ability to make progress. I...
by stevengconnelly@aol.com | Mar 3, 2018 | Mindset
What creates fear? Is it public speaking, flying in a plane, the future, spiders, animals, the dark? there are many things which can have an impact in our ability to feel fear. For most people fear of the unknown is what holds them back from going forward and embracing a better life. However for some people fear is not an issue. When we were kids we seemed to have little fear. Truth is fear is there to protect us from harm, the challenge is when fear hold us back from becoming our best. Fear can be enhanced when we don’t understand something, yet fear is not completely knowledge based. Our past shapes how we view fear today. If your parents were overprotective your more likely to become a bit more conservative than someone who’s parents let them have little boundaries. Same is true today, if you and I are spending time with people who are fearful, then you are at a greater risk of being fearful also. We become like those we spend the most time with. When we were kids we’d come home from school change our clothes and go out and play for hours, only to come home when the street lights came on, that was a signal it’s time for supper. Thinking about where we went and how far we would travel seems like a dream, Our parents were strict yet allowed us to roam around as we wanted. Back in those day’s there were no cell phones, pagers or computers to communicate with our family, they simply didn’t exist. Playing deep in the woods, assembling...
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